- LISTEN to your body (blood rushing, clenching teeth, racing heart beat).
- BECOME AWARE of your 'hot thoughts' (How dare he talk to me like that!).
- DEFOCUS from the other person and focus on quitening your thoughts and body through deep breathing and telling yourself:'I am going to handle this very calmly'.
- SMILE at the raging driver, or even send flowers to your inconsiderate neighbours.
- PAUSE and move yourself out of the tense situation, find a safe place, sing a song, clap your hands, do a jig anything to take away the excessive charge in you.
- FOCUS on solving the problem rather than winning the fight. Scoring against somebody might give you an instant high but it would be short-lived.
- AVOID making the conflict personal (How can you talk to me like that?) or moving away from the main issue (why did you marry me if you think I can't cook well?)
- APOLOGISE to take away the heat from a difficult situation but do not wait for an apology.
- FORGIVE and let go of the anger that you have been carrying for years. Write a letter of forgiveness to the person concerned and if you are uncomfortable mailing it, burn it and see your anger dissolve.
- MOVE away from self pity, feeling victimised (He treats me so badly), externalising blame (I deserve more than this crap), and revenge (I will not let him get away with this).
- EXPAND your world view and rather than putting people in black and white, see them as different hues in a rainbow.
- MEDIATE , mediate mediate
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your thoughts are good but I
your thoughts are good but I think it is difficult or you can say impossible to do all this.
But still keep doing it as it will effect the masses somewhere atleast somebody will be benfited.
Thnks
Nothing is impossible man...
Nothing is impossible man... it is just a way to mediate in a particular direction... and mediation always helps..in a way that it relaxes your senses!
Samantha:A health Freak